We all know the story of the origins of the phrase ‘memento mori’ – whispered in the ears of Roman emperors to remind them that – whatever your status, power or wealth – you’ll end up the same way as the lowliest slave. Dead. In other words, we’re all equal in the end. One crucial aspect of that jolly little reminder, however, is figuring out when and how ‘the end’ is. It’s one thing when it’s all done and dusted, and you’re past caring – maybe then you could argue there’s a level playing field. The act of dying and the period before is a whole different ball game.
Being old, being poor, having ongoing health issues – add to that the belief you’re a burden and everyone wishes you’d ‘get on with it’ – and you can understand why so many older people have stated a desire for a DNR (do not resuscitate) during these Covid-19 days. This situation didn’t start with the plague days though, it’s been going on – and getting worse – for years. Look at this way – the government has just realised it has to shovel a sh*t-load of money towards the NHS but is still doing its usual schtick of social care? What social care? Exactly… Too many governments, over too many years, have ignored the huge and inevitable issue of long-term care of the elderly and the vulnerable.
And this current crisis is also shining a big, bright light on how little care there is for the carers themselves. Will this change in the future? I’m crossing my fingers, but not holding my breath. And whilst not at the age threshold to be deemed vulnerable, I’m getting there so maybe not a good idea to be holding my breath for too long…
So, these days when there’s little need for ‘memento mori’ maybe we should practise a bit more ‘memento vivere’. Oh, the irony then that I should seek comfort in classic episodes of Columbo which is all about murder and not getting away with it. The way I see it though is – ‘death goes on’ and ‘murder doesn’t stop’ – perfect Columbo titles, don’t you think? I recently, especially enjoyed the classic ‘Try and Catch Me’ featuring the staggeringly brilliant Ruth Gordon who was 81 at the time! If you want true inspiration for your memento vivere – check out this woman’s work, particularly the later stuff.
